Building my self-love

For a long time, I was perfectly content being on my own. After experiencing a few toxic relationships, I had built a life I loved—independent, fulfilled, and deeply connected to myself. I had recently moved to a new state, and though many of my friends were out dating, I didn’t feel the pressure to do the same. I wasn’t actively looking for love. Instead, I focused on creating a life that made me happy, and that’s when everything changed.

I wasn’t chasing a relationship, but by embracing self-love and prioritising my personal growth, I unknowingly started attracting the right kind of energy. Self-love isn’t about treating yourself to occasional luxuries, but about knowing who you are, setting boundaries, and being okay with solitude. It’s about creating a life where you feel whole without needing anyone else to complete you.

When we focus on nurturing ourselves, we not only heal from past experiences but also build a strong foundation that allows us to show up authentically when the right relationship comes along. I wasn’t seeking someone to "fill a void," but rather to build something meaningful together.

Then, out of nowhere, I met someone who completely shifted my perspective on love. Because I had already worked on myself and wasn’t dependent on someone else for my happiness, our connection was natural—rooted in mutual respect, trust, and open communication. There was no pressure or anxiety, just two people ready to grow together.

Self-love isn’t just about being content on your own—it’s about becoming the best version of yourself, which naturally attracts the right kind of relationship. When you stop chasing love and focus on becoming whole, you’ll find that love finds you, effortlessly.